Self- Confidence: Taking the path lasting self-worth

Dr. Porrselvi A.P., PhD, Psychologist, Unified Brain Health Care, Arunai Neuro Foundation

Do you think you gain confidence when everything always works out or people who seem confident are ones who have things going for them?

Real confidence isn't about a perfect life; it's about knowing your worth, even when things don't go your way.

It's easy to tie our value to our achievements and what other people say of us or what we think others think of us. This is why we feel good when we succeed but this is also why some people never feel good, even when they succeed. But why does that happen?

When our confidence depends on outcomes and other people, it crumbles. True self-worth is different. It's a deep-seated belief in yourself, regardless of wins or losses.

Confidence is when we are able to look at our insecurities and draw inspiration that can actually guide us. Our flaws show us where we need to accept ourselves more. When we're insecure, we often try to control how others see us, hiding parts we fear will be judged. This need for approval shows a shaky sense of self.

Consider something you accept about yourself, like your height. If someone comments on it, it likely doesn't bother you because your worth isn't tied to it. That's the power of self-acceptance.

When we're unsure of ourselves, we often see those doubts reflected in the world, constantly seeking reassurance. But real confidence comes from within.

Building Your Inner Strength:

• Know Your Insecurities: Understand what makes you feel vulnerable.

• Accept Yourself Fully: Embrace all parts of who you are.

• Focus on Effort: Value your hard work, not just the results.

• Believe in yourself and your effors: Your worth comes from inside, not from external praise.

• Learn and Grow: See challenges as chances to get stronger.

  
  

True confidence isn't about having perfect life from the start. Often times life would have given us lemons when we are children. But now when we are aware of this, it is about building a strong sense of self that stays steady, no matter what happens. Embrace who you are, focus on your effort, and know that your worth isn't written in wins and losses.

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